Myth 1:  Some women just can't have orgasms.

 While there are a percentage of women who have never had an orgasm, there is no evidence to suggest some women are incapable of having orgasms.  There are two reasons why some women have not had orgasms in their lives. The first is that for whatever reason they have never masturbated.  Masturbation is often a woman's first orgasm experience. The second is that they simply are not receiving the proper type of genital stimulation.  Clitoral stimulation is needed by most women to have an orgasm.  Without that stimulation, it most likely isn't going to happen. There are some women who have psychological blocks when it comes to experiencing sexual pleasure.  This may be the result of any number of past events in their lives, but even that does not mean they are physically incapable of having an orgasm.  If they worked through those problems, they would be able to engage in orgasm-producing intercourse just like any other woman.  

Myth 2:  Women take longer to reach orgasm than men.

 This is another common myth which has not been supported by research.  The reason people believe this is that they don't understand the female arousal pattern. Women's arousal patterns are much different than men's and, as a result, they are physically prepared for intercourse later than men are. The time from optimal arousal to orgasm is pretty much identical for both men and women.  The difference is in how long it takes to reach that level of arousal.  Because men often don't know how to help their partners get to that point, it does seem to take longer. Once that's changed, however, men find their partners reach orgasm more quickly and even have multiple orgasms in quick succession.  

Myth 3: Women can reach orgasm more easily if her partner has a large penis.

 Men who have worried for eons about the size of their penis can relax.  The truth is that size really doesn't matter all that much.  Since only the first two inches of a woman's vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useful during intercourse, at least from the woman's physical perspective. In fact, when men are overly concerned with the size of their penis and whether it's sufficient, their minds aren't focused on pleasuring their partner and that is no way to experience female orgasm. A survey done by the Kinsey Institute found that the average size of an erect penis measured from the tip to where it connects with the rest of the body is 6.16 inches in length.  The girth of an erect penis is 4.84 inches on average. Both of these statistics are come as a surprise to men and to women who have been convinced by our culture (and possibly pornographic movies and magazines) that the average size of an erect penis is eight or nine inches.  That same Kinsey study actually found that less than 2% of men have penises which meet that requirement. Remember whether a man's penis size is below, above, or just average, he still has the ability to help his partner reach orgasm and that is far more worthy of praise than a few extra inches of penis.  

Myth 4:  There's nothing wrong with faking orgasms.

 The majority of women sincerely believe this myth, but the truth is there is something very wrong with faking orgasms. First, faking an orgasm is a form of lying to your partner.  The woman is telling him that he has achieved something which she knows he has not.  While that may make him happy or may make him feel good about himself temporarily, in the long run any lie will hurt the relationship because it will eventually be discovered.  No matter how good our intentions lying during a relationship is never going to make it stronger. 

Second, women who fake orgasms because their partners are not helping them reach climax are denying themselves pleasure wrongly.  Faking orgasms not only interrupts a woman's enjoyment of the actual intercourse, it also prevents the man from trying other ways to please her.  From his perspective, the sex is great. The only way to have a mutually satisfying sexual and non-sexual relationship is through honesty. Although problems in the bedroom can be hard to discuss, bringing them up and working through them will strengthen the relationship and will make the sex better for both partners.  

Myth 5:  Women should only reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.

This is definitely not true but it's a myth that has caused us to take women's sexual needs for granted for a long time.  This myth actually started with Sigmund Freud, the developer of psychoanalysis, who had recognized that women could easily reach orgasm through clitoral stimulation.  Freud dismissed this type of stimulation as juvenile and believed it was important for women to become more sexually mature by focusing only on vaginal stimulation to reach orgasms. The problem is that the vagina was not designed for orgasms.  It does not have the concentrated nerve endings that one finds in the clitoris or in the head of a penis, for example. As a result of Freud's determination, women who could not reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse were considered to have some type of psychological impairment.  All sorts of methods were devised in an attempt to “liberate” women from their reliance on the clitoris for sexual pleasure. Only in recent decades has society begun talking openly about the women's right to enjoy sex and to reach orgasm in whatever manner worked for her. Remember, much of what you may have known about female orgasms is not true.  Only once you move beyond these myths will you truly be able to reach that level yourself or help your partner reach that level. However, as in everything, knowledge is power.